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Oct 10, 2011
How Much is the Doggie in the Window?
Sep 26, 2011
The “Thank You” Economy--Missing Link to the Social Media Story?
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Sep 13, 2011
SWOT Analysis -- A bit of James Bond for Your Business
Jun 28, 2011
Don’t Shoot Yourself in the Foot When Using Powerful Marketing Tools
Mar 19, 2011
Are You Getting Referrals?
Feb 3, 2011
Making An Email Introduction--or Declining to Do So Graciously

"I’ll send you an introduction via email!”
Sound familiar? How many email introductions have you made in your busy career? If you’re like me, I bet you routinely take sloppy short cuts:
Have you simply copied both parties to the introduction in your email, without first checking with each of them to see if they want to be introduced?
Have you been unclear about WHY you are introducing them (who gains, and why)?
Did you forget to give both parties an “out” if they don’t have the time or interest to meet?
The short cut to which I am most prone is the first one: I am always pressed for time and don’t always call or check with both parties before making an email introduction. According to the Harvard Business Review this is a BIG DEAL. My friend Bob always makes a practice of calling people to make sure they are open to an introduction. Other people send TWO emails, one to the first party, await a response, and only then forward the introduction to the second party. This seems cumbersome, especially if I am doing 5-6 email introductions at a time, which is typical after a BRN or networking meeting.
Recently, I discovered an elegant solution. Called “Introduction Agent,” it is a double opt-in Web-based tool that requires both parties to opt-in to the introduction before the stored introduction is sent. Created by two software developers in their spare time, it offers a pure Web-based method for doing email introductions right. It is free. Try it yourself.
The Introduction Agent forces you to be clear about why you are introducing, gives either party a way to opt out, and makes you look very professional! I talked to Introduction Agent Co-founder Allan Grant about this need to “pre-confirm” email introductions:
“Most Introductions, however well-intentioned, fail. When we started working on Introduction Agent — this was something we believed from analyzing the success rates of our own introductions, but we didn’t have any proof for it. Now that we’ve built the service, we are starting to see some meaningful data to support this. In analyzing the last three months of introductions created using Introduction Agent, we’ve found that only 47% percent of sent introductions are accepted. That means that when someone sends an introduction asking two friends to connect, the introducer is wrong more than half the time.”
So the key point is – either do it virtually (on the web or with separate emails) or in real time with a quick phone call, but it is critical to check first before sending out your virtual introduction to all parties.
But what if you don’t want to make an introduction?
Have you ever been asked to make an introduction that you didn’t want to make? I have. I took the easy way out and made some excuse to the person seeking an introduction that the person to whom he sought an introduction was traveling or in the hospital with a tropical disease. But again, a recent article from Jodi Glickman at HBR offers some great advice for this sticky situation. If you don’t think the introduction is a good idea, don’t make it. But if you decline, how can you do so without incurring hurt feelings? Unfortunately, for this dilemma there is no Web app. But I have some advice:
1. Be honest—more or less. Explain why connecting the requestor with one of your contacts is not a good idea. Offer specific reasons.
2. Offer a consolation prize. Is there something else you COULD do that might be helpful to the requestor?
3. Stay in touch. Leave the door open for a future introduction. Perhaps circumstances will change in the future, and you will feel different about facilitating the desired contact.
Email introductions are a powerful network-building tool. Take a few minutes to examine your past practices, then resolve to be better at helping yourself and your contacts expand their networks.
Jan 15, 2011
Sometimes a Crank is Just an Unfamiliar Gear!

Leigh Van Valen died in last October. I read his obit in the NYT. I’d like to be able to say I recognized his name, but it was his picture that caught my eye. He looked like a grown-up version of some of the geeks with whom I went to school, the ones who were brighter than I. The way Dr. Van Valen lived his life has something to say to all of us.
The guy was brilliant: he published over 300 scholarly papers on all sorts of subjects, rarely twice in the same field. Although his early degree was in zoology, he was just as likely to write something publishable about evolutionary biology as about ecology. His immense energy led him to stick his nose into and challenge lots of established dogma. “He could be a fly in the ointment in the sense that his ideas often upset people, and it took time for them to be accepted,” said William B. Provine, a historian of science at Cornell.
One of Van Valen’s most talked-about concepts came to be known as the “Red Queen Hypothesis,” after the character in Lewis Carroll’s Through the Looking Glass. If you remember, the Red Queen noted that "It takes all the running you can do, to keep in the same place." The Red Queen Principle can be stated thus:
For an evolutionary system, continuing development is needed just in order to maintain its fitness relative to the systems it is co-evolving with. (Van Valen, L. (1973). A new evolutionary law Evolutionary Theory, 1, 1-30)
In its time, that concept and the paper associated with it were deemed so controversial that the paper was rejected for publication by 20 established professional journals. As a reaction to his difficulty in finding a publisher for his ground-breaking, contrarian idea, to publish the paper Van Valen founded his own professional journal, Evolutionary Theory. As its editor-in-chief, for years Van Valen spent hours poring over every submitted manuscript, many of them from people whose credentials and publishing history were light to nonexistent. Asked “Why do you spend all that time with submissions from cranks?” he replied, “It can be hard to tell a crank from an unfamiliar gear.”
How well do we separate the cranks from the odd people who have something unexpected to offer or say? Today as part of our strategy to make it through too-busy days, most of us tend to triage our perceptive inputs, censoring what we’re willing to listen to. Consequently, I wonder what “unfamiliar gears” we tune out. Van Valen’s life and willingness to entertain ideas that are decidedly odd should make clear the wisdom of listening to ideas that challenge our own.
Who knows what "crank" will be coming up with the next great idea?